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The Assumption Trap | Lessons from Family Mediation Services

The Assumption Trap | Lessons from Family Mediation Services

I often find inspiration for posts from my family mediation services. But the reality is that communication lessons are present everyday if we pay attention. A friend of mine was venting to me recently about his mother-in-law. He is a videographer. Exceptionally talented, award-winning, and creative. He has made a great career creating marketing materials Continue Reading »

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6 Ways to Deal with Rigid Black and White Thinkers Inspired by Mediation for Divorce Clients

6 Ways to Deal with Rigid Black and White Thinkers Inspired by Mediation for Divorce Clients

  Do you ever feel like banging your head against the wall when dealing with rigid and inflexible people? Folks who get stuck in only one way of thinking? Who have trouble seeing the forest through the trees? Ever find yourself in a conversation that seems to be going nowhere because the other person doesn’t Continue Reading »

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10 Tips to Avoid Sounding Like Charlie Brown’s Teacher | Improve Communication in Relationships

10 Tips to Avoid Sounding Like Charlie Brown’s Teacher | Improve Communication in Relationships

Ever been told you should listen more? To wait before you respond? To just shut up and just pay attention for a second? To stop sounding like Charlie Brown’s teacher going wah-wa-wah-wa-wah…? Solid advice, right? Rubbish! Or that’s what someone named Elissa wrote to me after reading one of my posts about communication in relationships. Continue Reading »

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5 Steps to a Great Apology | Family Conflict Management Strategies From a Divorce Mediator

5 Steps to a Great Apology | Family Conflict Management Strategies From a Divorce Mediator

Ever receive an apology that didn’t feel apologetic? Left you feeling worse? Angrier? Infuriated? In mediation — and in life — I see apologies of all shapes, sizes and colors. Some feel authentic and cathartic. Some feel compulsory and meaningless. Some feel passive-aggressive and irritating. And some downright hurtful. “I’m sorry you feel that way” Continue Reading »

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Feeling Ignored? MA Child Support Mediation Shows Why You Get Bewildered When Solutions to Family Problems Are Ignored…And What To Do About It!

Feeling Ignored? MA Child Support Mediation Shows Why You Get Bewildered When Solutions to Family Problems Are Ignored…And What To Do About It!

Ever offer a solution to a problem that you know will help the other person? A brilliant, selfless, creative, and irrefutable solution? Like this one I heard during a MA child support mediation: “I really won’t care if you reduce the child support.” How many parents paying child support would LOVE to be told that Continue Reading »

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One Simple Way to Improve Marital Problems, Family Conflict, & Communication in Relationships

One Simple Way to Improve Marital Problems, Family Conflict, & Communication in Relationships

Ever get really impatient waiting for an answer to a question? I know a lot of people like this (you know, like me). Unfortunately, this impatience causes problems. Let’s take Jake, a student with whom I work. One of his teachers had a frustrating experience with him. The teacher asked him a question. Jake looked Continue Reading »

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Relationship Issues Stressing You Out? 3 Tips to Improve Marriage Problems Without a Marriage Counselor

Relationship Issues Stressing You Out? 3 Tips to Improve Marriage Problems Without a Marriage Counselor

“Why do I NEED to consider her point of view after all the marriage problems we’ve had, and the way she’s treated me?” A divorce mediation client angrily asked this of me after I made a comment suggesting the possibility that he might need to consider his wife’s perspective. I was trying to suggest that Continue Reading »

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Relationship Help That Could Save Your Marriage

Relationship Help That Could Save Your Marriage

“Stop trying to fix all my problems!” “You’re NOT LISTENING to me!” “You don’t GET it! Sound familiar in your relationship? If you or your partner have either uttered something like this out of sheer exasperation, or have had these barbs thrown in your face, you have to watch this video. Seriously. Check it out. Continue Reading »

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