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How Does Custody Work in Massachusetts?

How Does Custody Work in Massachusetts?

The word “custody” conjures ugly divisive images for many people. This post will clarify how child custody works in Massachusetts. Two Types of Custody In Massachusetts there is legal custody and physical custody. Legal custody involves a parent’s legal right to making decisions for their child. Physical custody relates to time the child lives with Continue Reading »

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Your Kids and Divorce: Mediating a Child-First Divorce

Your Kids and Divorce: Mediating a Child-First Divorce

What do kids and divorce negotiations have to do with one another? A lot! (for parents). Thinking about your kids could be the best decision you’ll make in your divorce negotiation. Your Kids’ Shoes I recently wrapped up a mediation that was a model child-centered divorce. The parents weren’t buddies. They didn’t spend a lot Continue Reading »

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Dealing With Divorce Can Be Easier When You Think Like a Kindergartener

Dealing With Divorce Can Be Easier When You Think Like a Kindergartener

I am always trying to find a unique twist for my posts. Something that sets my ideas apart. Thinking about this post, common expressions I hear from parents in mediation kept running through my mind. Statements like: He’s so demanding. She’s so controlling. He’s rude. She’s bossy. Hmmm…I wonder what mind-blowing advice I could provide Continue Reading »

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3 Divorce Mediation Tips: How to Deal with Family Problems

3 Divorce Mediation Tips: How to Deal with Family Problems

Echos of a divorce mediation: She doesn’t get it! She’s SO emotional. All she’s going to do is talk about her FEELINGS. He doesn’t get it! He’s SO patronizing. All he’s going to do is talk about what is LOGICAL. Stereotypes for sure. Gender-aside, you can certainly relate to arguing with someone whose brain operates Continue Reading »

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Hate Your Ex More Than You Love Your Kids? Children of Divorce

Hate Your Ex More Than You Love Your Kids? Children of Divorce

There is a family judge in Massachusetts who makes decisions for children of divorce every day. She has a sign hanging on her door that reads: Do You Hate Your Ex More Than You Love Your Kids? Provocative question, right? You might be thinking “of course I don’t — that’s just ridiculous!” Maybe you are Continue Reading »

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Shut Up To Improve Communication Skills! Marriage and Parenting Advice From a Family Mediator

Shut Up To Improve Communication Skills! Marriage and Parenting Advice From a Family Mediator

I used to interview prospective staff for a residential treatment program before I became a family mediator. Whenever I asked them to describe qualities that would make them a good child care worker I was invariably told something like, “I love to help people and I’m a GREAT listener.” Yet, when I would walk in to Continue Reading »

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4 Key Strategies for Successful Co-Parenting After Divorce

4 Key Strategies for Successful Co-Parenting After Divorce

Co-Parenting After Divorce While divorce can seem like an overwhelming obstacle, for many parents it is just the beginning of a new and equally intimidating challenge: co-parenting your children. Hopefully, if you’re reading this you are still involved in your children’s lives, and hopefully co-parenting. I write under the assumption that you both care deeply Continue Reading »

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Co-Parenting After Divorce When You Hate Your Ex But Love Your Kids

Co-Parenting After Divorce When You Hate Your Ex But Love Your Kids

A few weeks ago a divorce mediation client was venting frustration in a private session about certain aspects of child support and co-parenting after divorce. She was convinced that her husband would be irresponsible with the money and spend more of it on himself than the kids. To prove her point she pointed out that Continue Reading »

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