Parent Mediation: Co-Parenting After Divorce and for Never-Married Single Parents
Your children keep you linked to the other parent even if you are parenting after divorce or never-married.
In fact, most divorced and unmarried parents have more years of co-parenting ahead of them than the actual years of their marriage or dating relationship. Removing the intimacy of a marriage or dating relationship can sometimes lead to improved communication and warmer feelings between the parents.
Of course, this is the ideal scenario for co-parenting.
The Challenge of Co-Parenting After Divorce or Relationship Break-Up
However, it is often the case that the broken relationship was a result of opposing communication styles, goals, aspirations, values – all of which can lead to ongoing conflict, expensive legal fees, mistrust, and overall negative feelings.
Co-parenting under these circumstances is much harder. And the children are the ones stuck in the middle, pulled in different directions.
Parenting requires a litany of decisions that can be difficult when the two parents are dealing with resentment, hurt, and often a desire to separate from the other.
Yet, both parents love their children and truly want to make decisions with their best interest at heart.
Parent Mediation Helps Co-Parents Make Decisions To Benefit Their Children
It is with these dynamics that parenting mediation can be helpful. A parent mediator can help facilitate communication and decision-making for issues related to:
- Joint modifications to the parenting plan
- Child-related information sharing
- Holidays and vacations
- Extracurricular activities
- Education and schooling
- Child support modification
- Sending shared and consistent messages
- Health, dental and medical issues
- Child mental health
- Relationships with relatives
The divorce research is clear that there is a correlation between the level of conflict between the two parents and outcomes for their children.
The higher the conflict the greater the chance that the children will experience negative outcomes. Research has shown a negative impact on child and adult mental health, educational and career attainment, relationships, physical health, and overall success and happiness.
The good news is that the reverse is also true. By lowering the children’s exposure to conflict parents are increasing the likelihood of positive outcomes.
The goal of parenting mediation is to strengthen the parenting relationship, protect the children from exposure to conflict, help parenting after divorce, separation or relationship break-up, and more than anything else, benefit the lives of children.
Please contact me if you would like to learn more about parent mediation.